Anyways  the  articles were about people that think that marriage isn’t meant to last and when there is a problem that both people cannot seem to get over then it always seems to lead in them breaking up. And i was thinking about that and i remember some tips i got on how marriage is a sacred thing and once the covenants were made that they were never meant to be broken. An therefore making a promise to help each other overcome all the obstacles in each others paths  and when you both make  mistakes if you don’t learn from them  then it is very easy to wind up in the situation of both wanting a divorce and there being a hatred or a discontent towards each other later in life and very often ruining the kids lifes as well.  

When i got married my parents said every morning you need to both decide whether you will be happy or whether you will be miserable that day.

One thing people need to remember is divorce should not be an option otherwise if you decide that you can get a divorce whenever  something goes wrong than a marriage will never work. Here is a few tips on keeping a healthy relationship.

1. Never go to bed mad at each other – Always make up before you go to bed otherwise there will be tension starting a new day and it will damage the relationship in more ways than you know.

2. Don’t go looking for pleasure or fun outside the relationship or family – If you find yourself thinking about the opposite sex other than your spouse in ways that should be reserved for your spouse  than there is obviously something wrong at home and you need to talk more with your spouse  and mentally figure out whats going on because if you don’t than 9 times out of 10 you will wind up doing something that you will regret.

3. Always be sure to say “i love you” at least two or three times a day – it is comforting to know that your spouse is thinking about you each day.

4. Don’t argue about money – money is something that destroys alot of relationships. When you get marriedthen your money becomes hers and her money becomes yours. however it is useful if one person takes over the finances so you can keep track of whats being spent and how much there is left to spend or save which ever you decide.

5. When your upset never yell at your partner -  yelling will never solve anything.  If you do wind up getting in a heated discussion make sure and make up asap even if it means getting the other a gift or taking em on a date or just doing something nice to show that you care. 

6. And last but not least never bring work home.  if you get stressed out at work don’t go home and yell at your spouse or kids or grumble about how bad a day you had because you set the mood of the house when you come home and you want the mood to be positive.

The jewel for January is the Garnet.

Most people think of Garnet as a single type of stone that is dark red, but actually Garnet is a family of gems that spans a range of colors. Garnets are also said to be a stones of purity and truth. These stones are a depiction of loyalty and constancy in friendship, a symbol of love and compassion and believed to help increase the sex drive.These stones are believed to possess the power to bring success in business, fame and popularity. They also are said to provide protection and bring spiritual awareness.  Many Garnet crystals have the shape and color of pomegranate seeds.

 The name Garnet that comes from the Latin ‘Granatus’ which means “seed-like.” . In ancient times it was known as Carbuncle which relates to the color and refers to a boil or blister. The name Carbuncle was also applied to other red gems, but especially to red Garnet.

Visit Donsjewelrystore for a complete list of  Gems of the month.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside

the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.– At least, in the eyes of our son— I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.

Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.

So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6

Most people like to determine what the jewelry of the month would be by going online and looking up what month goes with what gem.

Jewelry of the month can be determined by anything containing a certain gem that goes with that month. For instance, for the month of january the gemstone is a garnet and so on. so if you are looking for a gift for a girlfriend, wife, friend, or just a random person then the easiest way to decide on a piece of jewelry is to take them to a jewelrystore and see what kind of jewelry they like and to decide on a gem you can go by what gem goes with that month. Here is a link to all the details of gemstones and their months and also a detail of their history.

Questions To Ask Yourself  When Buying An Engagemant Ring:

2. What size of ring does she wear? If you are trying to surprise her then there are a few ways to get that information without taking her into the jewelry store and having her finger measured or making her suspicious. One way is to ask what she thinks of a friends or one of her familys rings. Two you could ask the people closest to her such as her friends or family what size of ring she wears but make sure they can keep it a secret. Three you could walk around and browse with her at the store or mall and see what kind of rings she looks at and she could also get her finger sized while she is there. Four you could borrow one of her rings for awhile and get it sized.

3. What kind of gem does she prefer on her ring? does she like like diamonds,emeralds, sapphires or does she prefer rubies. You could also determine the right ring by getting her, her birthstone color.

4. How much money do you want to spend and how much can you afford? One way to determine that is ask yourself how much do you make and how much do you have left over after you have paid your expenses to put on a payment for a ring.