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        I was just thinking about what i should post today and i came across several different articles that were really interesting and it started me thinking some advice i have gotten from my parents and others that have been married to one person their whole lives and have made marriage work.

Anyways  the  articles were about people that think that marriage isn’t meant to last and when there is a problem that both people cannot seem to get over then it always seems to lead in them breaking up. And i was thinking about that and i remember some tips i got on how marriage is a sacred thing and once the covenants were made that they were never meant to be broken. An therefore making a promise to help each other overcome all the obstacles in each others paths  and when you both make  mistakes if you don’t learn from them  then it is very easy to wind up in the situation of both wanting a divorce and there being a hatred or a discontent towards each other later in life and very often ruining the kids lifes as well.  

When i got married my parents said every morning you need to both decide whether you will be happy or whether you will be miserable that day.

One thing people need to remember is divorce should not be an option otherwise if you decide that you can get a divorce whenever  something goes wrong than a marriage will never work. Here is a few tips on keeping a healthy relationship.

1. Never go to bed mad at each other – Always make up before you go to bed otherwise there will be tension starting a new day and it will damage the relationship in more ways than you know.

2. Don’t go looking for pleasure or fun outside the relationship or family – If you find yourself thinking about the opposite sex other than your spouse in ways that should be reserved for your spouse  than there is obviously something wrong at home and you need to talk more with your spouse  and mentally figure out whats going on because if you don’t than 9 times out of 10 you will wind up doing something that you will regret.

3. Always be sure to say “i love you” at least two or three times a day – it is comforting to know that your spouse is thinking about you each day.

4. Don’t argue about money – money is something that destroys alot of relationships. When you get marriedthen your money becomes hers and her money becomes yours. however it is useful if one person takes over the finances so you can keep track of whats being spent and how much there is left to spend or save which ever you decide.

5. When your upset never yell at your partner -  yelling will never solve anything.  If you do wind up getting in a heated discussion make sure and make up asap even if it means getting the other a gift or taking em on a date or just doing something nice to show that you care. 

6. And last but not least never bring work home.  if you get stressed out at work don’t go home and yell at your spouse or kids or grumble about how bad a day you had because you set the mood of the house when you come home and you want the mood to be positive.